When I embarked on my Rich Habits Study I was not content with identifying the Rich Habits of wealthy people. Success habits only get you half way down the field. In order to get down the rest of the field and score, you also need to know what not to do. That is why I also studied the Poor Habits of those struggling with poverty.
Poor Habits anchor you in poverty and affect everyone around you. What are some of the anchors dragging you and everyone around you down?
* Negative Beliefs — Negative beliefs are like apps you download onto your cell phone. They program your thinking and direct your behavior in a very bad way. Worse, they infect those within your social circle. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored. What are some of the negative beliefs that are acting like an anchor around your neck and dragging you and others down? * I’m not smart * Poor people can’t become rich * Everyone in my family is overweight * I’m not lucky * I’m not a people person * I’m disorganized * I fail at everything
* Negative Talk – We are constantly talking to ourselves and others. When the words we use internally (self-talk) are negative, it’s like adding computer code to our negative programming. When the words we use externally (talking to others) are negative, it turns people off. Negative people suck the energy out of everyone they come into contact with. Negative people are simply exhausting to be around. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored.
* Gossip — Most gossip is negative. When we engage in gossip it telegraphs to others that we cannot be trusted and, thus, should be avoided at all costs. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored.
* Complaining — Everyone has problems. We are all trying to solve our own problems. When you complain to others about your problems it turns people off because they are overwhelmed trying to deal with their own problems. They don’t need or want to hear about your problems. They don’t have the energy to deal with their problems and your problems at the same time. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored.
* Financial Mess — There are a lot of reasons why people struggle financially. They spend more than they make, they take on too much debt, they struggle holding onto a job, they mismanage their business, they gamble too much, they drink too much, they have a poor work ethic or they are not self-reliant and depend on the generosity of others to constantly bail them out financially. Those who are unable to manage their finances drag themselves down and everyone around them. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored.
* Blame Thrower — Blame Throwers do not take responsibility for their life. They blame everyone and everything for their lot in life. Blame Throwers are by nature selfish individuals who have no control over their lives. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored.
* Anchored in Ideology — When you are anchored in ideology, you are close-minded and resistant to change. You ignore the ideas, opinions or feedback of others. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored.
* Needy — Those who are constantly needy are not just anchors around their necks, they are anchors around everyone they come into contact with. People catch on, the word gets around, and eventually you will find yourself alone and ignored.
We are our own worst enemy. Our anchors drag us down and everyone around us. Those anchors act like neon billboard signs that tell others: “I am an anchor who will drag you down”.
Find your anchors and remove them. If you don’t, people will catch on and you will find yourself alone and ignored.
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