How to Distance Yourself From Toxic Relationships


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One of the most important Rich Habits is growing relationships with other success-minded individuals. These relationships lift you up in life and open doors that are otherwise closed to you. One of the most common Poor Habits almost everyone has is having long-term relationships with individuals who turn out to be toxic, meaning they drag you down in life: they ask for money, they engage in negative gossip that hurts you or a close family member, they throw you under the bus and damage other relationships you have or they drag you into their problems.

It’s not easy to just turn off a long-term Toxic Relationship because they were very likely forged over many years. There’s just a lot of history there. Consequently, I’m constantly asked the same question, which is:

How do I distance myself from Toxic Relationships?

One common thread with Toxic Relationships is that these individuals eventually cross the line and when that happens there’s always a lull in the relationship following an event. Their M.O. or routine is to try to repair their relationship with you by offering an apology or by doing something nice for you. This lull represents your opportunity to pull back and distance yourself. Your reaction should be to not react when they attempt to repair the relationship. When they attempt to repair the relationship, ignore it, pull back, distance yourself. Then, the next step is to make a habit of limiting your exposure to these Toxic Relationships. Limit your contact with them as much as possible. This sends a message to them that the relationship is not going to continue as it did in the past. Eventually, the Toxic Relationship will weaken. They will shift their focus away from you and onto others who are more tolerable of their transgressions.

Remember, Rich Relationships are the currency of the wealthy. If you are on a path towards success, you need to build up your Rich Relationships and weaken your Toxic Relationships. Toxic Relationships will hamper you on your journey towards success. Avoid them like the plague.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley is a bestselling author, speaker, and media contributor for Business Insider, CNBC and a few other national media outlets.

His Rich Habits research has been read, viewed or heard by over 50 million people in 25 countries around the world.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, holds a master’s degree in taxation and is President of Cerefice and Company, a CPA firm in New Jersey.
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