For the past year I have been mentoring someone who was having relationship issues. Two of her friends were creating unnecessary drama in her life.
The drama was damaging close relationships of the person I was mentoring. So, I told my mentee to pull back from her two friends.
After about four months my mentee called me to thank me. She had done as I advised. She ceased all communications with her two toxic friends. She said since she had distanced herself from her two toxic friends she had eliminated much of the unnecessary stress in her life. Magically, for four months my mentee had no drama in her life.
Toxic friends put you in awkward situations by their behavior. When you remove them from your life, their behaviors no longer affect you because you’re out of the picture.
Whenever one of your relationships repeatedly creates undue stress in your life, they are by definition a toxic relationship and they need to be removed like a cancer. Once removed, the cancer dies and the drama and stress disappear.
About Thomas C. Corley
I love this advice Tom. I found this out the hard way, although it took me about 30 years to learn this lesson. I have finally realized that I am so much happier to keep close only those who lift me up and don’t add drama to my life. Another thought I have about friends who drag you down is that I ask myself if I would treat a friend this way? If the answer is no, then I have to question whether or not I want to continue the relationship.
So proud of you Tom! Keep up the good work!