You Are Under My Control


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I hate to tell you this, but your life is not under your control. Your behavior, your thinking, the choices and decisions you make, what you spend your money on, what you eat and drink, who you associate with, the T.V. shows you watch, the Internet sites you visit and so much more. Your life as you know it, if you’re like most, is one big zombie life.

We are all being bombarded, every day, with outside influences:  T.V ads, Internet pop ups, tweets, text messages, newspapers, the books you read and the habits you’ve adopted all influence your behavior and thinking. And there is only one way to regain control of your life.

AWARENESS. If you want to take control of your life it starts with AWARENESS. You must become aware of those things that are influencing your thinking and behavior. Here’s a process to help you do just that. Take out 7 pieces of paper. On each piece of paper write the following heading:

  • Sheet #1 – My Daily Habits
  • Sheet #2 – T.V. Shows I Watched
  • Sheet #3 – Internet Sites I Visited
  • Sheet #4 – Tweets/Social Media Messages I Read
  • Sheet #5 – Topics I Read
  • Sheet #6 – Topics of Conversation I Had With Others
  • Sheet #7 – Ads I Viewed

On each separate sheet of paper make 7 columns, one for each day of the week. Now the fun begins. Every day write down and track each of your habits, T.V. Shows, Internet Sites, Tweets/Social Media Messages, Reading Topics, Conversation Topics and Ads Viewed. You can customize your headings on each sheet or add sheets to include other categories you feel are having an outside influence on your behavior and thinking (i.e. radio, movies, podcasts, webinars, talking on the cell phone, etc.). The purpose of this exercise is to identify those things that are influencing your behavior and thinking.

By the end of the week you will have a comprehensive list of most of the things that influence your behavior and thinking. Once you know what is influencing you, only then can you take control of your life by identifying and then eliminating those things that are having a negative influence on your behavior. Put a Negative sign “-” next to each item that you believe is negatively influencing your behavior and thinking. Change is only possible with AWARENESS. Once you become aware of those things that are negatively influencing your behavior and thinking, you can eliminate them from your daily life.


Why You Must Surround Yourself With Other Successful People


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If you want to succeed in life, you absolutely must surround yourself with other successful people.

  • Successful people are successful  because they have expert knowledge and skills in very specific niches. Unsuccessful people lack expertise in any one niche.
  • Successful people surround themselves with other success-minded people who are also experts in their field. They have developed strong relationships with those successful people, whom they can tap at a moments notice. Unsuccessful people have relationships with unsuccessful or average people who also lack expertise.
  • Successful people know how to get things done in a cost-effective and expeditious way. Because they lack expertise or the ability to tap into other experts, unsuccessful people tend to complicate things, which ends up costing you time and money.
  • Successful people immediately add value to your life or to your business through their expertise or contacts. Unsuccessful people immediately add complications and problems to your life or your business.

Stay away from unsuccessful people. They cannot help you become successful in life. How do you know when someone is unsuccessful without looking at their bank statement? Unsuccessful people are easy to find if you know what to look for:

  • They have a glaring character flaw I call Bright Shiny Object Syndrome. This is the Poverty Habit of shifting gears from one obsession to another, year after year. They claim to be many things, having an expertise in multiple areas, which is virtually impossible for them because they never stick to one thing for very long.  As a result of this lack of long-term commitment, this absence of persistence, they lack expertise in any one particular area.
  • They are struggling financially because they don’t make enough money in their self-proclaimed field of expertise.

Seek out only successful people who have devoted themselves to unique niches for many years. Ten years or more, focused in one area or in one discipline, is a good benchmark. Never engage anyone for any initiative that is important to you without obtaining at least 5 references from individuals who used their services within the past twelve months. Make sure none of those references are family members. And make sure you ask the references specific questions whose responses will raise red flags, such as:

  • How much more money did they help you make?
  • How much more product or services did they help you sell?
  • Did you get the sense that they were struggling financially with their business while you were working with them?
  • Are you aware of any clients or customers who suddenly terminated their relationship with them?

Successful people will fast track your success, reduce costs, free up your valuable time and open doors to opportunities for you to make more money. They shorten the time you have to push that ball up the hill and make the effort less arduous. They help clear the brush away from your path towards success.


Who Are You Attracting Into Your Life?


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Birds of a feather flock together. We’ve all heard this saying many times before. In my study on the daily habits of the rich and poor one common thread among the rich was their desire to associate with other success-minded people and one of the traits of the poor was their desire to associate with those who were also struggling financially. It seemed to me that the poor subscribed to the misery loves company crowd because of this birds of a feather inclination people seem to have.

What I found interesting in my study was the fact that 177 of the rich were self-made. Thirty one percent of these 177 came from poor households and 45% came from middle-class backgrounds. Yet somewhere along the line these two groups decided to defy this birds of a feather inclination. They decided to associate with individuals outside their natural comfort zone – successful people. Why? They knew something everyone else didn’t: you attract specific people into your life by mimicking those people:

  • To attract successful people, you must be success-minded.
  • To attract positive people, you must be positive.
  • To attract visionaries, you must be a visionary.
  • To attract persistent people, you must be persistent.
  • To attract enthusiastic people, you must be enthusiastic.
  • To attract kind people, you must be kind.
  • To attract disciplined people, you must be disciplined.
  • To attract gifted people, you must be gifted.
  • To attract compassionate people, you must be compassionate.
  • To attract loyal people, you must be loyal.
  • To attract dedicated people, you must be dedicated.

When you adopt certain thinking traits you will attract like-minded people and you will repel unlike-minded people.

I have been pursuing success these past seven years and I can tell you that many people have joined my Rich Habits movement. And many of these same people jumped off that bandwagon. Why? Because they did not share the traits of persistence, vision, dedication and enthusiasm that I had adopted along the way. Unknowingly, my newly adopted traits eventually repelled those who lacked the same traits – those who would drag me down, distract me and hold me back.

If you want to succeed in life, you need to adopt those traits that will attract success-minded people. The byproduct is the creation of a team of like-minded, success oriented people. So let me ask you, who are you attracting into your life? If you’re not happy with who is in your life, you need to work on you first. Once you adopt the traits of success-minded people, you will find yourself attracting other success-minded people and repelling those who would drag your down and hold you back.

Whose Wall is Your Ladder On?


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Most of us are very good followers. We do as we are told. We become accustomed doing as we are told. This habit forms early in life. Our parents, for our own good, make us do things we don’t want to do: wake up early for school, eat broccoli, do homework, house chores, etc. Doing what we are told is conditioned into us from the very beginning.

But then we become adults. Physiologically, this metamorphosis begins at about the age of fourteen and continues until about age eighteen. Some parents who recognize this transformation, slowly begin handing over decision-making for our lives to us. They encourage us to take individual responsibility. They let us make mistakes and experience some of life’s harsh realities and stand ready to offer advice and direction when things go wrong.

Unfortunately, parents like this are in the minority. Most continue to exert control over the lives of their children well into their twenties, preventing them from becoming independent thinkers and doers. They are sometimes referred to as helicopter parents. We pursue goals and dreams of our parents and not our own goals and dreams. We put our ladder on our parents’ wall and climb that ladder our entire lives. At some point, we realize we are unhappy doing what we are doing and become despondent or depressed about the work we do. This unhappiness usually begins to manifest in our mid to late thirties, when we have children of our own. We get stuck between a rock and a hard place because we believe we must continue to climb our ladder up our parents’  wall in order to provide for our family.

How do you break free? How can you take your ladder off that wall and move it? You need to take action on your goals and dreams. Devote small blocks of time every day in the pursuit of your own individual goals and dreams, either early in the morning, late at night or on the weekends. It is possible to climb your own wall if you devote the little amount of time you have every day, day in and day out. In the beginning it takes discipline. But once you get going your passion will take over and energize you. Eventually, this investment will get you higher up your ladder and closer to the top of your wall. You will begin to feel happy and enthusiastic as you climb your own wall.

Don’t wallow in self pity because you do not like what you do for a living. Take action. Put your ladder on your wall and start climbing it every day. Take action today.

Born Genius


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We are all born geniuses. Each of us is gifted with unlimited potential to grow and express our genius. Unfortunately, along the way, we accumulate limited, negative beliefs that act like brakes, stopping us from activating our individual genius. The good news is that it is never too late to unleash your genius. Our brains have the capacity to grow well into our eighties. So how do you unleash your genius?

  • Pursue something outside of work that you are passionate about. Start today.
  • Engage in some creative hobby or extracurricular activity 15-30 minutes today.
  • Read to learn for just 15-30 minutes today.
  • Practice optimism by looking for one thing to be grateful about in your life today.
  • Praise one person today for something positive or good they did today.
  • Read something inspirational today.
  • Journal only about positive things that happened in your life each day.
  • Set and achieve one small goal today.
  • Learn one new fact today.
  • Learn one new word today.

Your brain expands when you engage in positive growth activities. Making small daily self improvements helps unleash your genius. Today is as good a time to unleash your genius.


The Right WHY Makes Dreams and Goals Achievable


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I became an entrepreneur so that I could become a multi-millionaire.

Why do you want to become a multi-millionaire?

Becoming a multi-millionaire means I never have to worry about money.

Why does having more money mean less worry?

Because having money means I never have to worry about paying my bills and paying off my mortgage?

Why do you want to have enough money so you don’t have to worry about paying your bills and paying off your mortgage?

Because becoming a multi-millionaire means I won’t have to constantly work and make money to pay my bills and pay off my mortgage.

Why is less work important to you?

Because if I don’t have to work as much I can spend more time with my family.

Why do you want to spend more time with your family?

Because I am happiest when I am with my family.

Your ultimate true WHY puts all of your dreams and goals within reach. You must know WHY you want something. Your WHY must have powerful emotions behind it: happiness for you or your family, to get healthy, to leave your mark on life (legacy), to help improves the lives of the poor, children, battered women, the addicted, the homeless, society, to teach something profound, etc. If your core WHY does not get you emotionally charged and infuse you with passion, then you will eventually stop pursuing your dreams and goals. Willpower alone can only get you so far. Passion is behind every successful person. It is the fuel for success. The right WHY turns on the passion switch.

Release the Past


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When we focus on our past mistakes, misfortunes and failures we anchor ourselves to victim thinking. We tie our current circumstances to our past. Successful people release their past by taking individual responsibility for their mistakes, misfortunes and failures. Then they pick themselves up and move on. If you focus on the past you are never going to be able to change your future. You need to release the past. The only thing that matters is what you do today to move your forward in life. The past is a prison cell that will hold you captive. The key to opening that prison cell is to focus on the future.

Unrealized Potential Causes Regret


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If you were to write your obituary today what would it say? Would it paint a picture of someone who went all out in life? Or would it paint a picture of someone who was controlled by their fears and doubts? For the most part, we all have the same amount of time. When your time is running out the last thing you want to feel is regret – regret for not doing more with your life, for not utilizing your full potential.

Each one of us is born a genius. The human brain has the capacity to turn thoughts and ideas into physical things. What are you creating with your incredible human brain? When the clock is winding down, you want to be able to feel that you at least tried to paint a masterpiece.

Success Has Its Rewards


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Why is pursuing success so important? Because success has its rewards:

  • Happiness – Pursuing and achieving something you are passionate about brings you happiness
  • Increased Wealth – While success is not just about creating wealth, the wealth you do create has a domino affect that impacts almost every aspect of your life.
  • Growth – The pursuit of success expands your knowledge and your skills. It helps you grow into the person you need to be in order for success to happen.
  • New Experiences – The brain likes novelty. Pursuing success introduces you to all sorts of new people, new ideas, new opportunities and new ways of thinking.
  • More Opportunities – Success is like a magnet for opportunities. The more success you realize, the more opportunities present themselves.
  • More Freedom – While there is a cost to pursuing success (hard work/long hours), that initial cost should be viewed as an investment that will pay dividends down the road. Oftentimes this future payout manifests itself in the form of more freedom: more money and more time to spend doing doing what you want to do.
  •  Less Stress – Financial problems create an enormous amount of stress. According to a recent study by the Pew Research Center, 71% of the population in the world is either poor or near poverty. Struggling to pay bills, fund college tuition for your kids or simply survive day to day when you have little to no money creates constant, long-term stress.
  • Peace of Mind – Knowing your financial future is secure gives you peace of mind.
  • Greater Enthusiasm and Motivation – Success fuels your enthusiasm and motivates you like nothing else.
  • Increased Confidence – When you succeed at anything, it grows your confidence. More success translates into more confidence.
  • Ability to Help Others – When you are successful you can use your influence and your money to help causes you believe in. You can improve the lives of others.
  • Increased Intelligence – Pursuing success requires that you gain new knowledge and new skills. This growth increases the number of synapses (brain cells that talk to one another) and also increase the size of axons (component of every brain cell). Neuroscientists have found that the greater the number of synapses one has, the larger your axons and the greater your intelligence.
  • Improved Health – Success reduces many of the stresses ordinary individuals must contend with every day. Poverty or near poverty creates many stresses. Long-term stress increases the production of cortisol, which depresses your immune system making you susceptible to disease and infection.
  • Increased Optimism – Success improves your outlook on life. It gives you the confidence that you can overcome obstacles, suppressing your doubts and fears.
  • Enlightenment – The pursuit of success expands your view of the world and shines a light on your strengths and your weaknesses. It opens your mind to your true potential, which is unlimited.
  • Increased Good Luck – Success is like a magnet for good luck. It draws individuals and opportunities to you. It opens doors that were previously closed to you.

What is the Secret to Success?


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As a result of my five year study of the habits of self-made millionaires I am often asked by the media what is the secret to success. If I were to boil down all of the data I’ve accumulated on the reasons for success I would have to boil it down to this:

The secret to success is:

The Persistent, Long-Term Focus on Something You are Intensely Passionate About.

Long-Term Focus – The ability to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing for however long it takes for you to become uncommonly expert in that one thing. In my research, I found this long-term period to be an average of twelve years. Twelve years devoted to becoming the best at what you do in one particular thing.

Passion – What makes it possible to focus for a long period of time is Passion. Passion = something you love doing and will continue to do until the day you die. Passion = activities you cannot stop engaging in and cannot stop thinking about. Eventually, these activities become habits.

There is a world of difference between willpower-based activities and passion-based activities. Willpower-based activities requires Forced Focus. This is a type of short-term focus that taxes the brain and uses a lot of brain fuel (glucose and oxygen). The brain becomes an involuntary partner and fights you when it perceives you are using too much brain fuel. And the brain always wins that battle.

Passion-based activities, on the other hand, utilizes something I call Unforced Focus. Unforced Focus enables you to engage in activities for longer periods of time. This unique type of focus eventually transforms passion-based activities into habitual activities. Think about a time when you found some activity you were really passionate about. Didn’t you want to engage in that activity every minute of every day? Eventually, you became so good at that activity that you could perform it in your sleep. It became a habit.

Tapping into Unforced Focus fast tracks habit formation and enables you to become an expert in your passion-based activity. Your brain wants you to engage in passion-based activities to save brain fuel and it will fight you when you engage in willpower-based activities because those activities expend too much brain fuel.

If you engage in passion-based activities, your brain becomes a voluntary partner and rewards you with this supernatural Unforced Focus. Unforced Focus leads to habit formation. Through habitual repetition, you eventually become an expert. And that leads to success.