Develop the Habits to Create Opportunity Luck, Achieve Consistent Success, and Build Wealth
If you want to change your life, you must change your habits. In my book Rich Habits I highlight which habits have the most impact over your life and in my followup book Change Your Habits Change Your Life, I explain how to make habit change quick, painless and permanent. Below I share some of the key habits to adopt for the new year along with some of the strategies to make habit change easier. [Read more…]
Contrary to what you may have been taught, your IQ is not fixed. It can increase or decrease during your lifetime. What causes your IQ to increase or decrease?
A brain cell, also known as a neuron, is made up of the cell body, numerous dendrite branches and one axon trunk. The dendrites receive signals from other neurons. The axon sends signals to other neurons.
As I detailed in my book, Change Your Habits Change Your Life, IQ is determined by the size of your axons, number of dendrite branches and the number of synapses you have. Your axons, dendrites and synapses can increase or decrease during your lifetime. An axon is very much like a tree. It has one trunk with many branches. The size of the axon’s trunk determines your IQ. The bigger the axon trunk the faster that neuron is able to communicate with other surrounding neurons, increasing the number of nearby dendrites that receive axon communications, thereby increasing the number of synapses within the brain. A synapse is when two or more neurons communicate with each other.
When you engage in certain mental and physical activities, the size of your axons grows, the number of dendrites multiply and you increase the number of synapses inside your brain. When your mental and physical activities are limited, your axons shrink, reducing the number of dendrites and synapses.
What activities grow axons, dendrites and synapses?
What shrinks axons, dendrites and synapses?
If you forge daily habits that increase the size of your axons, number of dendrites and the synapses inside your brain, your IQ will grow. Good habits, therefore, can grow your IQ throughout your entire life. Conversely, bad habits can cause your IQ to decrease during your lifetime.
You may have heard of the Human Genome Project. This was the government funded effort to sequence the human genome. For nine years Craig Venter worked for the Human Genome Project in their effort to sequence the human genome. He learned some lessons along the way about success that I thought I’d share with you.
Success in any field is about taking risks
Venter grew frustrated with the pace of the government controlled project and their reluctance to experiment with new ideas. His novel “shotgun approach” to sequencing the human genome was soundly rejected by the powers that be on the project. So, taking a huge risk, he quit the project and started Celera Genomics in 1998. He invested all the money he had into Celera. Within 9 months, using his “shotgun approach”, Venter was able to sequence a human genome for the first time.
Believe in yourself and don’t let others opinions define you
Venter was consistently admonished by the powers that be on the Human Genome Project that his “shotgun approach” would not work. Venter never wavered in his belief in his novel approach and that belief eventually would prove them wrong, turning genome sequencing on its head.
Success comes from doing something extraordinary with passion and intensity
Venter’s passion for his unique approach to sequencing the human genome endowed him with an inordinate supply of energy, work ethic, persistence and focus. When you pursue something you are passionate about, success traits you never knew you had, bubble up and help drive you forward in realizing your dream. Pursuing a passion, unleashes your inner success traits.
Passion attracts other passionate people
When Venter left the Human Genome Project to start Celera he soon found many apostles to his cause. Success-minded people are attracted to other success-minded people like bugs to a light. Pursue your passion and you will become a magnet for other success-minded people. Since no one succeeds on their own, the ability to find others who believe in your cause is critical to success.
Human beings were intended to be creative. It’s hardwired into our DNA. Creative pursuits unleash our inner genius. We all have the creative gene. When we pursue anything creative it triggers positive emotions and creates new neural pathways. Our brains like it when we create new neural pathways so it rewards us with an infusion of neurochemicals that produce a feeling of euphoria.
In a paper published in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience by researchers at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign, in which the brains of 46 teenagers were scanned, they found that risk-taking teens activated a portion of the brain called the ventral striatum. The ventral striatum is comprised of a large amount of dopamine receptors. Dopamine is the happiness neurotransmitter. It’s clear from many studies like this one, that the pursuit of success will make you happier in life. Playing it safe in life not only prevents you from pursuing success, it also results long-term unhappiness. When we engage in a creative pursuits we are literally turning on the happiness centers of our brain.
In my Rich Habits Study 61% of the self-made millionaires were small business owners. They created something out of nothing. Even more interesting, 80% of those self-made millionaires had devoted much of their adult lives in the pursuit of some dream. And how did they score on happiness? Eighty-five percent of the self-made millionaires in my study said they were happy.
Big deal, you might say, until you find out that 98% of the poor in my study said they were unhappy. Why were the poor unhappy? Because the poor were not creating anything. They were working for others who were doing the creating.
We are hardwired to create. That’s why the brain rewards us with neurotransmitters that release happiness chemicals. Those chemicals are the brain’s way of stimulating us to create. When we do, we become happy and fulfilled with our lives. When we don’t, we struggle in life.
“I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden: Or, Life in the Woods
Failing to meet expectations is the #1 cause of unhappiness and discontent.
Successful people make a habit of managing the expectations of those they serve. They understand that failing to meet the expectations of others results in lost clients or lost customers. As a result, they seek to manage expectations others have in them at the outset. They Under-commit and then they Over-deliver.
As a client or customer, when your expectations are exceeded you come back for more. Why? Because you like the feeling. You like feeling happy about the product or service you purchased.
When you make a habit of under-committing and over-delivering, you set yourself up for success. People will pay for anything that brings them happiness. They will loyally pay, over and over again, those who consistently meet or exceed their expectations. The richest and most successful people have a tribe of loyal clients or customers seeking a repeat of the consistent expectations experience they provide.
Habits are contagious. They spread like a virus throughout your social networks. That is why it is critical to surround yourself with individuals who get it and separate yourself from individuals who don’t get it.
Individuals who don’t get it are the ones you see living in big homes, driving expensive cars, drinking coffee from Starbucks, going on exotic and expensive vacations and then posting their pictures on FaceBook. Take a gander at the personal financial statements of those who don’t get it and you’ll see a lot of debt and behind that debt, a lot of stress and unhappiness.
Unwitting observers drool at the sight of those driving their expensive cars. But while you’re drooling, the drivers of these expensive cars are worried about making the next car payment.
Individuals who get it don’t drool. They don’t care what house you live in, what car you drive or how impressive your vacation pictures look on FaceBook.
What they do care about is how much they learned that day from reading, attacking their list of daily habit goals, getting in their daily workout, how much money they saved last month, building more relationships with success-minded people and pursuing their dreams.
These individuals don’t follow the herd. They don’t buy the next new gadget. They only care that their car can get them from point A to point B or that their house is nearly paid off.
Seek out those who get it in life. Avoid those who don’t. Success isn’t complicated. It’s a process. And a big part of that process requires that you surround yourself with the right people; the ones who get it in life.
If you follow the herd and try to keep up with others by emulating their lifestyles, you will ultimately fail in life. Money See Money Do is a loser mindset. It will keep you in debt, create unnecessary stress and leave you feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. Don’t be that person.
There is a great deal of science surrounding the impact our social networks have on us.
Numerous studies have shown that we pick up most of our habits from our parents (Brown Univ. Study – 50,000 families). In a 2012 Yale University study, parents who gambled increased the likelihood that their children would gamble as adults.
According to research conducted by Edward Horwitz, PhD, CFP and Associate Professor of Behavioral Science at Creighton University Heider College of Business, money patterns we observe in childhood drive our financial decisions later in life.
Parents’ educational pursuits influenced their children’s educational pursuits later in life according to a 2009 longitudinal study of 856 people according to Bowling Green University’s Psychologist Eric Dubow’s research.
Success is no different. It can spread like a virus throughout your social network, if your social network is comprised of successful people. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with the right people. If your social network includes success-minded people you will pick up their habits, thinking, behaviors and work ethic.
Conversely, if your social network is comprised of negative-minded people who see obstacles everywhere, or made up of people who have bad habits, or includes individuals who gamble or have bad money habits, you will become infected by them.
Success is a process. Part of that process requires that you surround yourself with others who are pursuing success or are already successful. They will infect you like a virus. Choose your virus.
Study after study points to unmet expectations as the #1 cause of unhappiness. We have a tendency to overshoot. We look at the world through unrealistic rose-colored lenses. We expect too much of others. We expect good outcomes or outcomes that are unrealistic. We focus on the best case scenarios. And this sets us up for disappointment.
Successful individuals have a positive mental outlook. They aren’t born with it. They develop it during their lives. It’s a constant work in progress, maintaining a positive mental outlook. When expectations are not met, it drags us down into a negative mental outlook, throwing a wrench into years of working hard to foster a positive outlook on life.
The key then is to manage expectations right out the gate. If you ask someone to perform a task or a favor for you, set the bar low or make sure your expectations are realistic. Successful people don’t put all of their eggs in one basket. They reach out to many individuals for help. They have a back up plan in the event the person they are relying on doesn’t come through.
If you’re pursuing some dream, be realistic about realizing it. Dreams oftentimes take years to turn into reality. Successful people don’t expect immediate success. They expect failures, mistakes, obstacles, potholes. They set their expectations low. This allows them to persist without negatively affecting their positive outlook.
With a new year upon you, it’s a good time to change your thinking with respect to expectations. Take your expectations down a few notches. This way, when something does not go your way, you will not be dragged down into the abyss of negativity.
