If you follow me, you know that a victim mindset is a thinking habit that afflicts many poor people.
Those with this Poor Thinking habit refuse to accept responsibility for the circumstances of their life.
This is a major problem because if you are a victim that means you are not in control of your life. And if you accept, as fact, that you are not in control of your life, changing your life becomes impossible.
There are certain things that, without a doubt, are outside your control, such as genetic deficiencies, death of a spouse, natural disasters or a job loss due to economic downturns.
But for those things that are within your control, playing the victim will do you no good.
If you want to transform your life, you need to be honest with yourself. You need to look inward and through self-examination, take responsibility for the circumstances of your life.
Instead of blaming others, society, your upbringing, your parents, the government, Wall Street, the rich, etc., start replacing the language of victims – It’s not my fault, with the language of those who are pilots of their life – It is my fault.
- It is my fault if I am perpetually overweight and now have heart disease, cancer, suffer a stroke, or contract some other self-made disease.
- It is my fault if I contract Type II Diabetes due to my poor diet.
- It is my fault if I have high blood pressure because I do little to no aerobic exercise.
- It is my fault if I make a middle-class income, yet have no savings or investments.
- It is my fault if my infidelities led to divorce.
- It is my fault if I am poor because I gamble.
- It is my fault if my life is a mess due to drugs or alcohol.
- It is my fault if my anger has gotten me fired or damaged my relationships.
- It is my fault if I do not have a strong network of friends.
It takes courage to accept responsibility for the circumstances of your life. But once you do, you become empowered to change your life. And that is when miracles become possible.