Born Again

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We often hear the phrase “born again” in the context of religion. Those who are “born again” go through a transformation, that almost always is significant and dramatic.

They learn new things, their beliefs change, their habits change, they associate with different people who share their views, etc.. In short, their life changes significantly.

When you are “born again” there is usually a wholesale change in your life, top to bottom.

Those who make the courageous decision to pursue a dream go through a similar process. You need to learn everything about your dream. You must become an expert in the industry your dream occupies.

Typically, this involves acquiring new knowledge by reading everything you can get your hands on related to your dream. It also requires that you learn new skills and practice those new skills over and over again until you become expert in those new skills.

It also requires that you eliminate old beliefs that hold you back from pursuing your dream. So, you acquire new beliefs; beliefs that fuel your ability to realize your dream.

Dreams also affect your habits. You must adopt the habits of those in your industry who are successful and get rid of old habits that hold you back from realizing your dream.

Lastly, you must change who you associate with. You must find those individuals who can help you open up doors in order to realize your dream.

If you want to succeed in realizing a dream, you cannot remain who you are. You cannot continue to do what you’ve been doing. You must change your knowledge base, your skills, your habits and who you associate with. You must be “born again” into the person who you need to be in order to realize your dream.

 

 

 

 

 

How to Plan for Unexpected Expenses

Author: Jennifer Outram, SEO & Digital Marketing Specialist  Big Leap, LLC jen@bigleap.com

When they think of unexpected expenses, most people think of repairs from a car accident, repairs from a leaking roof, or medical bills from an injury. And many people who haven’t experienced these things think that they don’t need to worry about having an emergency fund because frankly, they’re just cautious people. But if you look at your budget and your past expenses, you’ll find that there are always unexpected expenses popping up, even if they aren’t huge like replacing a roof.

Things like gifts, special occasions, school and activity fees, and pet emergencies can all sneak up on you and leave you frantically trying to shift your budget around to cover the cost. To avoid the stress and, worse, having to charge the expense to a credit card, use these tips to plan for unexpected expenses.

Create a $1000 Emergency Fund

Everybody should have an emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses, and $1000 is a good starting point. While this may seem excessive to some, especially the cautious I mentioned above, you can’t control things like the weather, or the diseases or death of family members and friends who live afar. If you find yourself having to miss work and travel for a funeral, this fund can save you financially. If a tree falls on your roof, this fund can help.

It’s important that this fund is not easily accessible so you aren’t tempted to touch it for unnecessary items. Set it up in a secure savings account that can’t be accessed with a debit card or ATM.

Review your previous year’s expenses

Maybe you already have an idea of what’s ahead. Perhaps you live in an area prone to flooding, or severe snowstorms. This can give you an idea of what kind of unplanned expenses may come your way, maybe in the form of snow tires or disaster restoration services. Maybe you realize that four of your family members have birthdays in June and all threw parties that you were expected to attend. You can plan to spend extra money that month on gifts.

Start creating space in your budget for these items. You never really know how much damage or repairs you will need, which is where your emergency fund can kick in if the amount you allotted in your budget for these items is not enough. Set aside money for holidays and birthdays, and a little extra for work parties or other events that will probably pop up.

Expect the worst, or at least that something will come up

It’s best to just kick that “it won’t happen to me” attitude right out of your head, because it can, and it will. You can’t control how other drivers will act, you can’t control if your children’s classmates come to school with strep throat, or if your dog chases and eats a bee and, surprise, is allergic.

At some point, your car will need maintenance. You will get sick. An appliance will require repairs. Make a list for each family member (including pets) or aspect of your life. Some categories can include home repair, car repair, missing work, medical bills, vet bills, etc. Figure out how much you can allot monthly to each category. Then if an emergency comes up in one category but not another, you can dip from the others without having to use the money for bills or groceries.

Fix your credit

Lastly, make sure your credit score and history will work for you if you do need a personal loan or another form of borrowed money to cover a significant unexpected expense. When it rains, it pours (or so they say), so after you’ve used your emergency fund it may be necessary to borrow mother rather than risk getting stranded or worse. So fix your credit to make sure that unexpected expenses don’t set you back more than they have to.

Skip the cart

Shopping carts are big and getting bigger. Seriously. If it’s just a habit to grab a cart when you go shopping, opt for a basket instead. You won’t be able to fit as much and your arm will get tired, so you’ll naturally shop and spend less. This will help you stick to your list and avoid impulse shopping, so skip the cart and reach for a basket or your own arms instead.

These tips can help you gain control of your finances and rein in your spending.

Rich Relationships vs. Poor Relationships

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Are your close relationships helping you to become rich and successful ……

 

Why You are always Broke

or bankrupting you? Be very careful who you associate with. They may be making you poor by association.

The Habit Seesaw

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Life is like a seesaw. On one side of the seesaw are your Poor Habits and on the other side are your Rich Habits.

If you have more Poor Habits than Rich Habits you put yourself on the path towards poverty.

If you have more Rich Habits than Poor Habits you put yourself on the path towards becoming rich.

Adding just two or three Rich Habits is all it takes to change your life and get your seesaw tipping in the right direction. You don’t need to worry about getting rid of any of your old bad habits when you add new good habits.

The interesting thing is that Rich Habits are like dominoes. When you add one Rich Habit it changes your other habits. Adding Rich Habits actually makes it easier to eliminate your Poor Habits, which will go away automatically.

 

 

 

 

 

Rich or Poor – It All Comes Down to Luck

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The poor believe that the only type of luck they have is random bad luck

The rich believe that they create their own type of luck which I call Opportunity Luck.

Either way you slice it, becoming rich or poor comes down to luck.

From my research, I have found that luck is a major factor in success:

  • 79% of poor people in my study believed wealth came from random good luck and the reason they were poor was due to a lack of random good luck.
  • 87% of the wealthy people in my study believed they created their own luck.

I found that the poor created their own bad luck in the form of Detrimental Luck. Their bad habits, bad behaviors, negative thinking and uncontrolled emotions are like apple seeds they plant every day. Eventually those apple seeds sprout, turn into trees and produce rotten fruit.

The rich also created their own form of good luck called Opportunity Luck, according to my research. Their good habits, good behaviors, positive thinking and under control emotions are like apple seeds they plant every day. Eventually those apple seeds sprout, turn into trees and produce delicious fruit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Power That is Persistence

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Persistence is sustained effort toward a goal or your Chief Aim in life.

Most people lack persistence and it is the reason most are not wealthy. A lack of persistence is the main cause of failure in life.

Wealthy people have the Rich Habit of being persistent. They simply never give up. They are obsessed with their dreams, goals or main purpose in life and will not stop until they achieve their dreams, goals or Chief Aim in life.

  • 62% of the wealthy are focused on their goals every day.
  • 80% are focused on achieving at least one goal.
  • 55% of the wealthy in my study spent a year or more working towards some goal.

 

 

 

 

 

The Negative Thinking Poor Habit

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Negative thinking is a Poor Habit.

When you make negative thinking a habit, negative things eventually will materialize in your life.

The brain, specifically the subconscious (Brain Stem and Limbic System), goes to work behind the scenes to bring about that which you are constantly thinking about.

It does this through intuition. Intuition is the way the conscious brain (Neo-Cortex) communicates to you what the subconscious wants you to do. If your thoughts are negative, the intuition you will receive will be destructive. It will nudge you to do something that will bring about the negative things you are constantly thinking about. When you are in a negative place, intuition can be destructive.

This is why it is so important to be aware of our thinking and stop all negative thoughts in their tracts. This is also why it is so important to consciously put positive thoughts in our minds through the use of daily affirmations and visualization techniques. The conscious mind cannot hold onto two thoughts at the same time. so, the key to getting rid of negative thoughts is to think about something positive. This pushes the negative thought out of the mind and prevents the subconscious from doing any damage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Thoughts Become Things

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Thoughts become things. 

Repetitive thoughts tied to any emotion, good or bad, creates neural pathways in the brain. The brain cannot distinguish between a repetitive thought that is based in reality or one that is a false reality. 

This is why it is so important to control your thoughts.

If your thoughts are positive, upbeat and focused on your ideal reality, the subconscious part of your brain (Brain Stem and Limbic System) will get to work to bring that new reality into existence. 

Daily affirmations, spoken with emotion, just after waking in the morning and just before bedtime, allow the subconscious part of the brain and the conscious part of the brain (Pre-Frontal Cortex) to communicate with one another. This is because when we are waking up or falling to sleep we are in the first phase of sleep, called Alpha phase.

Alpha phase opens the pathway between the subconscious mind and conscious mind via the Corpus Callosum, the mass of brain tissue that separates the right side of the brain from the left side of the brain. The Corpus Callosum also happens to be connected to the three major parts of the brain: Cortex, Limbic System and Brain Stem.

 

 

 

 

 

Not Every Thought Needs to Come Out of Your Mouth

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My Aunt Peg, one of my early mentors in life, used to brag about how she always spoke her mind. The problem was that my Aunt offended a lot of people. As kids, we’d get a laugh out of it because we loved seeing our Aunt Peg go to town on someone.

But at my Aunt Peg’s funeral, I noticed that only two friends showed up to pay their respects. Besides the family, the church was empty.

Speaking your mind turns out to be not such a good thing. Ninety-four percent of the wealthy in my study said it was a bad thing to say what’s on your mind. As a result, they made an effort to forge the habit of filtering every thought before it came out of their mouth.

The reason? The wealthy believed that saying what’s on your mind risks damaging valuable relationships. Imagine spending years building a strong relationship with someone you value, someone who could open doors for you, only to destroy that relationship overnight with a few off the cuff words.

Conversely, 69% of the poor people in my study believed it was a good thing to say what’s on your mind.

Saying what’s on your mind sounds noble, even admirable. Only, it’s not. Words can destroy relationships. Rich people figure this out long before they make their first million dollars. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Five Common Habits of People in Debt

Author: Jennifer Outram, SEO & Digital Marketing Specialist  Big Leap, LLC jen@bigleap.com

Statistics have found that debt isn’t about how much money a person makes, but how much money they can hang on to and manage. You’d probably be surprised at how many of the seemingly well-to-do people you know are actually buried in significant debt, and frantically trying to fix their credit as a result. But what makes debt such a trap for some people, regardless of their careers or income?

If you did some digging, you’d probably find that they share these five common characteristics of people in debt.

1. They Are Impatient

People in debt are often impatient and impulsive. “Sleeping on it” and window shopping is not an option for these people – they want what they want, when they want it. They are all too familiar with credit card payments and financing options, so they know they don’t need to have the cash in hand to buy whatever is appealing to them in the moment.

To break or avoid this habit, get yourself into a cash-only mentality. Know the balance of your accounts at the start of each day, and grant yourself a certain amount of cash for your purchases. If you can’t pay cash for it, don’t buy it.

2. They Rationalize

This goes hand-in-hand with their impatience. When they see something they want, there is always a good reason (or excuse) to buy it right then. These people often confuse wants and needs, and because they are also impatient they don’t take the time to think out the purchase to actually determine if what they’re about to charge is a need or a want.

To break this habit, reward yourself with experiences or free/less expensive things instead of things you can purchase. Also, take a picture of anything you’re about to buy and send it to a trusted friend or family member with the caption, “Do I realistically need this?” This will give you another perspective and also give you time to realize that you probably don’t.

3. They are insecure

The first two habits are often a symptom of this third characteristic, which is insecurity. For whatever reason, many people find comfort and security in tangible belongings or what they can buy – whether it’s a nice car, house, the newest smartphone, an exotic vacation, designer clothes, or what have you.

On the surface, it may seem that these people are happy, successful, and secure, so imitating them must mean that you’ll have that as well, right? Wrong. If you don’t have the money to do so, then you’re setting yourself up for the exact opposite. Stress, financial despair, and more insecurity as you constantly struggle to keep up with the Jones’s, who are more than likely trying to keep up with someone, themselves, is what you have to look out for when you jump on this bandwagon. Stay out of this cycle.

4. They Lack Perspective

People in debt rarely have much of a savings or retirement fund. They don’t think about the future or plan for the unexpected. They often have the, “it won’t happen to me” mentality, but that’s the thing about life – it always does. Maybe they’ll be lucky and avoid anything big, but even having the funds to repair or replace a flat tire, fix a broken window, or fly to visit a sick or dying family member may not be available for people in debt.

To work on this habit, start by calculating your monthly expenses and starting an emergency savings that can cover 3 months worth of expenses in case something happens. Make sure this fund is not easily accessible so you don’t dip into it unnecessarily.

5. They are disorganized

People in debt don’t know what days their bills are due, or what amount is due. They likely have bills on auto-draft to avoid missing a payment and to save time, but often find themselves hit with overdraft fees because the funds aren’t always there.

To avoid this, get yourself more involved with your finances by manually paying your bills each month. Set reminders on your calendar and phone so you don’t miss a payment, but if you take the money out yourself and can see the balance, you will have a better idea of what your financial situation looks like consistently.

Skip the cart

Shopping carts are big and getting bigger. Seriously. If it’s just a habit to grab a cart when you go shopping, opt for a basket instead. You won’t be able to fit as much and your arm will get tired, so you’ll naturally shop and spend less. This will help you stick to your list and avoid impulse shopping, so skip the cart and reach for a basket or your own arms instead.

These tips can help you gain control of your finances and rein in your spending.